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Why do Women Circle?

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On a wonderful Ayurveda Course I attended with Dr. Deepa at  Ayurveda Pura London,  the Ayurvedic understanding that a very high percentage of Women’s Dis – ease is caused by a lack of expression,  plus my own personal experiences, I have been inspired to create these Radiant Women’s Circles.

The tumultuous history of women’s circles…

Humans have basically been gathering in the round since we began walking upright. “Circles with a sacred center are ancient, the oldest form of social interaction,”

“The fire was in the center as the people cooked and ate their food, heard stories, worshiped their Gods and Goddesses, and passed down the traditions and wisdom that kept them alive and healthy.”

Ladies-only circles, too, have been taking place for ages, all around the world. Many were directly tied to menstruation and the moon cycles,“There are menstrual hut and moon lodge traditions all over the world that date back to 800 CE and in some places are still practiced today,” While Menstruation is seen negatively nowadays, there was an empowering side to Menstruation once upon a time.

The red tent and moon lodges grow in popularity as a sacred space for women and girls to affirm their spirituality and sexuality, and to heal from the wounds of patriarchy through connecting with each other.

So what happened between then and now to make Women’s Circles all but disappear from our culture?

“We weren’t allowed to come together because it made people feel uncomfortable, and we were persecuted for it.

This all happened even before the birth of America. “In 1484, the Hammer of Witches publication by two German Dominican monks began the systematic destruction of women’s spiritual practices and health care by torturing and murdering women healers and spiritual leaders,” 

This oppression lasted 500 years and was carried with colonialism to every corner of the Earth.” circles faded from popularity—in part because of the Holocaust, which decimated the Jewish population and took many of its written historical records with it.

Of course, that didn’t completely stop women from getting together on their own terms, from sewing and quilting circles to tea dates. “We were still called to gather, but we weren’t allowed to dip into an energy that would offend the power of the masculine,”  Paula Mallis

How modern Women’s Circles make you happier…and healthier…

As most women’s circle attendees will tell you, the experience is a lot different from gossiping about other Women, screaming and wailing at the injustice of life, of Men, of each other, or getting naked and dancing around the Circle.

It’s a very different energy.

We talk about community a lot when we’re not actually in community, most events don’t necessarily give is  a sense of belonging, and we can still go home feeling alone.

But when we’re in a setting where we’re not going to compete with each other, there’s a hormonal response that we’re safe. And that allows us to look each other in the eye and talk about real shit that’s going on in our lives.”

Part of this is because of the ritualized nature of a women’s circle. Today’s facilitators often bring in ceremonial practices that help encourage everyone to participate in the discussion. In Radiant women’s Circles we have a Rose Quatrz Heart we use as a talking stone.

“In Native American women’s circles, there was a talking stick and storytelling—a lot of sharing and listening,”

And ultimately,  I hope that Women’s Circles will have an even bigger impact on healing the world at large. “If we can teach women around the world to be in these real types of communities designed for witnessing each other, we may be able to convince different groups of women in conflict to come together in these circles,” 

“So many women are suffering from depression, loneliness, and anxiety, and this is a ritual that is literally designed to combat that.”

Radiant Women’s Circles are a safe space to meet with like minded Women to share inspiration, share life experiences, inspire positive living in a beautiful and supportive environment, a safe space where we can come together to share discussion in a non judgmental and supported way incorporating Shares, Themed Circle chats, Journaling & Intention setting. Yoga or Dance, Relaxation & Meditation, connection and support within a community of like minded Women.

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Too Much Woman

There she is. . . the “too much” woman. The one who loves too hard, feels too deeply, asks too often, desires too much.

There she is taking up too much space, with her laughter, her curves, her honesty, her sexuality. Her presence is as tall as a tree, as wide as a mountain. Her energy occupies every crevice of the room. Too much space she takes.

There she is causing a ruckus with her persistent wanting, too much wanting. She desires a lot, wants everything—too much happiness, too much alone time, too much pleasure. She’ll go through brimstone, murky river, and hellfire to get it. She’ll risk all to quell the longings of her heart and body. This makes her dangerous.

She is dangerous.

And there she goes, that “too much” woman, making people think too much, feel too much, swoon too much. She with her authentic prose and a self-assuredness in the way she carries herself. She with her belly laughs and her insatiable appetite and her proneness to fiery passion. All eyes on her, thinking she’s hot shit.

Oh, that “too much” woman. . . too loud, too vibrant, too honest, too emotional, too smart, too intense, too pretty, too difficult, too sensitive, too wild, too intimidating, too successful, too fat, too strong, too political, too joyous, too needy—too much.

She should simmer down a bit, be taken down a couple notches. Someone should put her back in a more respectable place. Someone should tell her.

Here I am. . . the Too Much Woman, with my too-tender heart and my too-much emotions.

A hedonist, feminist, pleasure seeker, empath. I want a lot—justice, sincerity, spaciousness, ease, intimacy, actualization, respect, to be seen, to be understood, your undivided attention, and all of your promises to be kept.

I’ve been called high maintenance because I want what I want, and intimidating because of the space I occupy. I’ve been called selfish because I am self-loving. I’ve been called a witch because I know how to heal myself.

And still. . . I rise. Still, I want and feel and ask and risk and take up space.

I must.

Us Too Much Women have been facing extermination for centuries—we are so afraid of her, terrified of her big presence, of the way she commands respect and wields the truth of her feelings. We’ve been trying to stifle the Too Much Woman for ions—in our sisters, in our wives, in our daughters. And even now, even today, we shame the Too Much Woman for her bigness, for her wanting, for her passionate nature.

And still. . . she thrives.

In my own world and before my very eyes, I am witnessing the reclamation and rising up of the Too Much Woman. That Too Much Woman is also known to some as Wild Woman or the Divine Feminine. In any case, she is me, she is you, and she is loving that she’s finally, finally getting some airtime.

If you’ve ever been called “too much,” or “overly emotional,” or “bitchy,” or “stuck up,” you are likely a Too Much Woman.

And if you are. . . I implore you to embrace all that you are—all of your depth, all of your vastness; to not hold yourself in, and to never abandon yourself, your bigness, your radiance.

Forget everything you’ve heard—your too much-ness is a gift; oh yes, one that can heal, incite, liberate, and cut straight to the heart of things.

Do not be afraid of this gift, and let no one shy you away from it. Your too much-ness is magic, is medicine. It can change the world.

Don’t believe me? Check this: All of your favourite women, the ones who’ve made history, the ones who’ve lent their voices for change and have courageously given themselves permission to be exactly who they are………………….they’re all Too Much Women.

So please, Too Much Woman: Ask. Seek. Desire. Expand. Move. Feel. Be.

Make your waves, fan your flames, give us chills………..Please rise………..We need you.

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The Invitation

 

The Invitation

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming
from the book The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.


It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool for Love,
for your dream,
for the adventure of being alive.


It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your Moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.


I want to know
if you can sit with pain,
mine or your own
without moving to hide it,
or fade it,
or fix it.


I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with Wildness!
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.


It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.

If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own Soul.


If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.

And if you can source your own life
from its presence.


I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”


It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.


It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.


It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.


I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments

 

 

Anahata Chakra

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“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity

cannot survive.” Dalai Lama

We are human, and we love. Love creates so much joy, and yet it seems to

inspire so much pain in our lives. How can we learn to love and to make wise

choices about our relationships? How can we learn to fully express love and

choose wonderful, caring partners?

The health of our relationships is determined by the health of our heart

chakra. Relationship problems, our insecurities and needs are all regulated

by the heart chakra. If we wish to enjoy satisfying and enriching

relationships with people who open their heart to us in return, we can do this

by balancing and enhancing the health of our heart chakra.

The heart chakra’s true purpose is to help us fully and safely experience love.

The Sanskrit name for the heart chakra, Anahata translates to unhurt, a

beautiful reference to the place from which we can love without fear or pain,

without attachment. When we balance our heart chakra, we simultaneously

release past relationship wounds and attachments which may be hurting us

in the present, and which could also compromise our future. The key to

attaining the state of being ‘unhurt’ is to find love, forgiveness and

compassion, for both others and ourselves.

When we begin to heal the heart chakra, we create a softening of the heart.

This softening stirs the energy of love and compassion and through

awareness we can begin to dissolve the hurt we so often bury in our hearts.

As our heart awakens to its own loving potential we begin to experience

genuine connection with others, and our relationships grow healthy and

radiate love.

When the heart chakra is balanced and open we can begin to move towards

that wonderful state of being Buddhists describe as ‘loving kindness’. In this

state one is non-judgmental of others and oneself, lives a life full of

generosity and sees the inherent goodness in all.

Evaluating your heart chakra

Simply answer YES or NO to each of the statements below. If you score

more than four Nos it may indicate that your heart chakra is imbalanced. If

you score four or more YES answers, wonderful! You are balanced in the

heart centre.

Δ I am a generous person.

Δ I have open, honest relationships.

Δ I have compassion for myself.

Δ I forgive easily.

Δ I accept others as they are.

Δ I breathe deeply and effortlessly.

Δ I accept myself just as I am.

Balancing your heart chakra:

Heart chakra crystals

Rose quartz, emerald, jade.

These crystals may be placed on the location of the heart chakra (centre of

your chest) for clearing, revitalising and healing. You may even choose to

carry one of these crystals with you throughout your day.

Heart chakra oils

Rosewood, rose, bergamot.

These oils can be used in massage treatments, burned in an oil burner or you

may even add a few drops in to your bath.

Rose Meditation

Softly close your eyes and be in touch with the gentle rhythm of your

breathing. Imagine a soft pink rose resting in your heart, its scent, its

beauty, filling your heart. With each out-breath the petals of the rose unfold,

releasing more and more of its soft fragrance. As the centre of the rose

reveals itself to you, you see that inside is a brilliant white light. Reflect now

on any situations, relationships or people that need healing or deeper

understanding, and hold each person, each situation, in the light and

fragrance of your heart centre. Use the rhythm of your breath to return to an

awareness of your body and your everyday surroundings.

5 Top Tips for balancing your heart chakra:

Try to find compassion and kindness for yourself daily, so that it is

possible to find it for others.

Try to see beyond people’s behaviours and through to the real person.

Live your life in the most generous and open way that you can.

Know that compassion does not mean that you have to fix things.

Rather than turning away, be there to offer compassion.

Try to find as much compassion for strangers as you do for your family

and friends.

Everyday ways to balance your heart chakra

Take a few moments every day to consciously tune into your breathing. Use

your breath to slow down your thoughts and release any tightness in your

chest. Use your breath to become more present in the moment. Wear the

colour green or rose pink, or play with these colours in different ways in your

life. Do some random acts of kindness and spread the heart energy.

Authentic Heart

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“To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect — and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practicing authenticity.”— Brené Brown

Journal Prompts.

Last Months Reflections…

For me the last month have been…

What I have learned is…

What i am most proud of is…

What does Authenticity mean to you?

If you were living an authentic life, living totally True to yourself, what would your perfect day look like?

When have you felt at your most authentic?

When do you feel most authentic? Who are you with? Who allows you to be authentically you

What’s something true about you that you need to embrace more openly and lovingly?

When you were little what did you want to be when you grew up, and did you follow through with your dream?

Write a list of 5 things you love about yourself, and why they make you unique.

What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?

What would you say is your biggest strength?

What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?

What are the different roles you play in your life? (e.g. mother, partner, sister, etc.)

What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next Month?

What would that improvement look like?

My intentions for the next month are…

This month I commit to…

To Summerize….